Hmmm where to begin, it is a long and complicated story... Well, it was at a time where I had been dating many many women in a row, all who dumped me within a month. I happened to have a HUGE crush on my best friend at the time and actively tried to break up her and her girlfriend. So, I was dating a woman named Elle and her close friend/dealer was named Bee. After Elle dumped me I became friends with Bee, I think Bee liked me because I had a car and would be DD for her every weekend. Bee was dating a girl named Wifey in a town about two hours away (who I honestly did not think was a real person) you see Bee had a beautiful voice but... well she wasn’t a looker and she flirted and made out with anything that moved. Which made me wonder if this Wifey was real and if she was, why did she let her girlfriend flirt and kiss other people?
Wifey at this time was living with Exy and sleeping in the same bed even though they were broken up. They broke up because a boy kissed Exy and Exy hid it from Wifey. So Exy was seeing yet another girl but happened to still be having sex with Wifey occasionally. It killed Wifey to watch Exy go to be with this girl because Wifey was still very much in love with her, so Wifey found a girlfriend in the city. She says she didn’t really like Bee and that Bee was just a way for her to escape.
So, back to me, I remember very vividly the first time I met Wifey. I was sitting on Bee’s bed and Wifey walked in, I’m sure my jaw dropped, how could this beautiful sexy woman be with Bee!?!? She had short spikey hair, was wearing a leather jacket, and had the most beautiful blue eyes you ever saw. I was so nervous of Wifey and couldn’t stop talking to her, made her smell my new perfume, told her I was taking pole dancing lessons, blurted out random stuff. So, I went to Hershe (a lesbian dance) with Bee and Wifey and this random girl started hitting on me and I ended up starting to date her. I happened to be out with Bee and Wifey when this girl and her friend came up to me and her friend said that she wanted to break up with me (how high school is that?!). Anyways, I burst into tears and Wifey comforted me. I was upset not because I had been dumped but because no one seemed to give me a chance, I’d probably dated about a dozen girls at this point. That was when Wifey started to like me. We started talking on msn messenger almost every night. Yes, we flirted, a lot. Bee would also talk to me on msn almost every night. One night Wifey told me she broke up with Bee, that night both Bee and Wifey decided that they wanted me! I obviously chose Wifey.
Then came the sneaking around. Wifey didn’t want Exy to know about me. The first ‘date’ happened because Wifey told Exy she needed to go into the city to find an alarm clock. Wifey and I ended up making out in a mall parking lot for a couple hours, lol. It came to be that I would have to wait for Exy to go to her girlfriends before I could go out with Wifey. I’d drive into Chilliwack after work then we would go out... or stay in. I even stayed overnight a couple times when Wifey knew Exy would be with her girlfriend. I guess one time Exy came home to find my clothes strewn about the bathroom and flipped out on Wifey. Anyways, Christmas time came and I ended up staying with Wifey for almost a week. My brother had come into town and the day I went back to my parents my mom told me he was staying with them. I was very upset since I don’t like to be around him and Wifey said I could stay with her for a bit. That was when Wifey moved out and into her parent’s house with me.
That was also when people found out. My best friend told me I was a horrible person for breaking up a couple and stealing my friend’s girlfriend and that if I didn’t stop seeing Wifey we could not be friends anymore. Almost all of my friends stopped talking to me. It was devastating for me to lose all my friends, especially my best friend who I was totally infatuated with but, well, I loved Wifey.
It killed me every time Wifey went out with Exy. Wifey refused to stop being friends with Exy and I just tried to suck it up and be okay with it. I usually cried when they went out together, everything Wifey had told me about their relationship seemed toxic, I didn’t understand why they had to still be friends. I really didn’t even want Exy at my wedding, but I tried to be the bigger person, to be okay with it, she was Wifey’s friend. Even though I sucked it up and would hang out with her, I didn’t actually learn to enjoy hanging out with her until she found a girl of her own to marry. For some reason all of a sudden I realized Wifey needed a friend and that Exy was not going to steal her away. I had to trust Wifey even when I couldn’t trust Exy.
So I’m not sure that made sense! There were a lot of people involved and it seemed so dramatic at the time. I remember Wifey crying when she realized she loved me and would have to move out of Exy and her apartment and it feeling so... dramatic and horrible. Now it seems silly for some reason. I guess because now I know it worked out for the best when back then I didn’t know how everything was going to work out. We are coming up on our seven year dating anniversary on December seventh! I am the luckiest person in the world to have met my wife, I am so glad Exy was idiot enough to give her up!
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