So, as I’ve briefly mentioned before my parents paid for sperm so Wifey and I could get pregnant after we lost my son. We went a different way than with our first child (Angel Boy). In Canada you are not allowed to sell or buy sperm, how lame is that... what this ends up meaning for us is that we could not get a Canadian sperm donor.
So after much research we decided on the sperm bank called Xytec (http://www.xytex.com/) in the states, we had heard it was one of the better banks. We purchased an account that let us look at pictures the men posted, listen to some of their voices, read everything they submitted, etc. You could search by eye colour, ethnicity, etc. The most important thing to me was that he has blue eyes. Wifey wanted someone with a really healthy family. We both wanted someone our children could know the identity of when they turn 18 years old. And finally, we were narrowed down because only some of the men were approved by Canada. ( I guess Canada has some sort of criteria that is harder to get or something).
We narrowed it down to our top three and called the company in Canada that would buy it for us from the company in the states (the ludicrous way to get around the no buying sperm law in Canada). The guy we chose had 10 vials in stock so we bought them all! The reason for this is it takes on average 6 times to get pregnant and we were both hoping to be able to get pregnant, then our children would be biological siblings.
As all this was happening the fertility clinic was making us jump through all the hoops the Canadian government has made for couples like us. One example is a counselling session costing four hundred bucks that said we were fit to have a kid! Cause everyone who get pregnant gets one of those, right? We also had to do blood tests, including a whole bunch of STI tests that we couldn’t have possibly ever gotten. I do understand the tests, it was just annoying and costly.
Once the sperm was on it’s way I had to prepare. Because I have PCOS or Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome I do not ovulate by myself. As far as we know I never have ovulated by myself. I was on birth control for years to help with the symptoms (acne, no periods, etc.). So I had to take progesterone, something that makes me extremely bitchy for some reason, to start a period, then I started on Clomid, a fertility drug. I then began peeing on ovulation tests to see when I ovulated. We almost gave up on my ovulation it took so long and we also think my level of Clomid was too high because I was getting strange visual side effects. But low and behold, I was fertile.
We called the clinic and they had an appointment for us that afternoon. We went in very nervous. We were so hopefully and so terrified at the same time. We wanted a baby and had lost one when I was nine months pregnant. We knew we were in for some heartache. They took us into a room and I put on a paper gown. They showed us the sperm and told us that it was a good count for being frozen and all lol. I then put my legs in the stirrups, they inserted a tube up my cervix and into my uterus and the sperm was put in. They told me to lie there for ten minutes and then I could leave. My wife and I had heard orgasm helps move things along... so well... yeah...
Two weeks later I had turned into what seemed like a raving PMSing bitch. My wife said I only get that angry when I’m pregnant. Turns out she was right! First try! Boo yeah! It only took me I think four positive pregnancy tests to actually believe it.
So about six months ago my wife was on that table having a tube put into her uterus, and guess what? First try for her too! So we have eight vials of sperm left! They are sitting in a freezer at our fertility clinic. We pay a yearly fee for them and when and if we are done with them we have to decide whether to donate them to science or destroy them. I say we just keep trying and see how many kids we get!
